There are some great online resources available to learn about the activities you might be interested in, like Submissive Guide andįetLife. But before you hit the sheets, you should get a few things lined up first.ĭo a little research. If you are interested in giving sexual power exchange a try, there are some great ways to get started. Amplifying roles in the bedroom can be the spice you need for more pleasure and healthy relationships. But remember, power dynamics exist in almost every relationship. Society teaches us that we need to be equals and in control of our bodies. There is pressure to conform, but you have the right to explore your sexuality just as you'd explore your career, hobbies, or the ice cream section at the mega-mart.Īccepting that it's okay to surrender control to your partner is sometimes tricky. Despite the progress around gender and identity, there's still a huge stigma and judgment around kink. There's nothing wrong with you if you are into kinky sex play.

Several studies have concluded that the number of people who enjoy power games in the bedroom is growing. Like a lot of things we see in the media, though, it's total BS. I know that BDSM and kink can get kind of a bad rap in the media, that you have to be some deviant or only messed up people are into it. I want to take a minute to reassure you a little bit. You may be asking, 'what's wrong with regular sex?' There is nothing inherently wrong or right about the kind of sex you enjoy. As long as you keep it fun and enjoyable, a bedroom power exchange can bring variety and playfulness to your sex life. Role-playing can be just for the evening, only on weekends or any time you're both in the bedroom. Sexual role play is a great way to start creating new elements of trust, intimacy, and excitement for your relationship. This power exchange is and can be fluid based on your preferences.

Sexual Power Exchange involves submissive partners who willingly and voluntarily relinquish control to their dominant partners, either in certain situations, for a specified period of time, or completely. Dominance is about receiving power, while submission is about giving power. They are most often fluid exchanges where whoever is in control can shift even within the same conversation. Power dynamics exist in all relationships. Are you ready to let your partner take the lead? There is no wrong way to get started as long as both of you have a curiosity and sense of adventure. Like me, you may find that exploring sexual submissiveness is a fun, exciting way to bring an element of power exchange into your life. At the moment he emphatically said yes, I was hooked. My first experience of being kinky was in the bedroom when I asked my partner to tie me up and have his way with me.

How to Be Kinkier by Morpheous